As many of you know, I lead a Tapping Group every other Wednesday night and it was an amazing experience this week.

We talked about the truths that we hold so dear. Whether these truths are actually true or not.

Sometimes our perceived truths are just beliefs that we have chosen to believe over and over again.

They are often judgments that we have accrued over the years and which we no longer question. We accept them as true.

Some of these judgments that came up during the Tapping Group were:

– I am unacceptable when I am overweight.

– I should have shame around my debt.

– It’s just wrong to get a free ride.

– I become less valuable and important as I age.

It’s amazing how these thoughts run our lives. When we believe something is shameful and that something is in our lives, it’s a problem. That shame actually locks that unwanted condition to us.

The more we judge the weight, the more the weight holds us tightly.

The more we judge the debt, the harder it seems to dig out of it.

The more we are convinced a free ride is wrong, the less we are in flow with our abundance.

The more we devalue ourselves as we get older, the older we look and feel.

What if we changed?

What if we questioned those judgments?

What if we questioned those perceived truths?

I believe the answer is found in self-acceptance and approval. When we actually approve of the extra weight or debt, something magical happens. We relax. And that thing that we are so judgmental about starts to relax, too.

Think of it this way. If someone is very judgmental toward you, do you want to cooperate with that person?

Hell, no!

If you are anything like me, you don’t want to do anything that person says. You become stubborn and uncooperative and maybe even downright rebellious.

So when you are carrying extra weight and judging it, is it possible that the extra weight acts just like you would? Stubborn and rebellious.

Could our judged body just not want to cooperate?

What if we changed the strategy? Instead of judging our weight, what if we approved of it?

I know – that sounds a little crazy. We are not supposed to approve of things like being overweight, or being in debt – or even growing older.

But what if we did anyway?

Approving of the things we are resisting in our lives doesn’t mean we are inviting more of it. I think that is the real fear. If we approve of something we really don’t want, it feels like we are opening the floodgates for more of it. And that’s scary.

But what if it’s the opposite?

What if approving of the extra weight allows that extra weight to cooperate with us and release?

Same with the debt…or aging…or abundance.

I gave my group homework this week. I asked them to come up with one thing that they really had a hard time accepting in their lives. And to find a way to approve of that thing anyway.

I can’t wait to hear how it goes. I encourage anyone reading this to do the same. Make an experiment of it.

You may be amazed where it takes you.