It’s not my money?! What?! I earned it! Of course it’s my money.

That’s the reaction that I often hear when I recommend Tosha Silver’s new book, It’s Not Your Money. But it’s a book I want you to read. It’s about opening up to the flow of the universe and receiving—and so much more.

The book takes you through eight weeks of deliberate practice around abundant giving and receiving, and I love it so much I’d like to be your guide so we can do it together.

Tosha Silver is a wonderful teacher and clearly, I love her work. If you join my “It’s Not Your Money” group, we’ll discuss each of the eight sections, support each other in the easy weekly tasks and add tapping to the mix. That’s where my expertise comes in. I think the teachings of Tosha Silver mixed with the awesomeness of tapping is a very powerful combination. We’ll take abundance and openness to the next level.

I’m offering this eight week get-together on Tuesday evenings from 8-9pm PST on Zoom. Get comfy in your pajamas and join us on the video chat. I’ll discuss the week’s chapter, and review what we did from the week before, then we’ll get into questions and tapping.

I’m very excited about this. Whether it’s five people or thirty who sign up, it doesn’t matter to me. It will be the perfect group. We’ll dig in together and have fun. And share the outrageous openness we’re creating.

My charge for leading this live workshop is only $85 for the entire eight weeks. It won’t be recorded because I want people to feel completely safe to share whatever they want to say. If you miss a session, you can just catch up on the next one. It’ll all work perfectly.

Also, if you sign up for this course, you’ll receive 25% off my individual sessions and 20% off my four-session packages for the rest of the year. That’s a big savings which I want to offer to those in my circle who are ready and willing to up-level their lives.

I know how challenging it can be to change and grow, so why not make it easier on ourselves? Why not invite in the divine in to help? I’m so looking forward to Tuesdays and I hope you’ll join me.

We start on Tuesday, June 25^th at 8pm PST. Please click here to claim your spot. And please buy—or borrow!—the book ahead of time so that you’ll be ready.

See you soon!

Dana

P.S. This is a west coast based workshop, but any and all east coast night owls are more than welcome to attend. Or, if there’s enough interest from East Coasters/Central Timers, I’ll set up a workshop to start after the 4th of July holiday. Lmk!

The secret sauce is momentum! Momentum is a wondrous thing. When we consistently move forward, momentum starts to build. When it takes over, it speeds us along almost effortlessly.

Great, right? It sure is when you’re in a positive mindset, seeing the best of yourself and others, and committed to a happy vision and life. Momentum is the wind in our sails that speeds us across our sea of life. Once we get it started, it does most of the work for us. And people, there is nothing as cool and fun as flow. It’s amazing!

But momentum works both ways. If you’re beating the drum of shame or victimhood, look out, because momentum will roll that along, too. And once we get a head of steam going around something, it can take real effort to turn it around.

Can you relate? I hope more to the first example. But we’ve all dabbled in both sides of the momentum coin.

So today, on this rainy turned sunny day in Los Angeles, I encourage you to practice creating positive momentum. We do that by taking small consistent steps and actions in the direction that we consciously crave to go. You could do a ten minute meditation, take a walk (in the rain!), do some affirmative tapping (what, did I say tapping?), or just catch yourself when a negative thought comes up and let it pass.

Every thought, every action, every intention adds to momentum. So what is the momentum you are creating right now? See where your current actions and thoughts are taking you … today, next week, next month, next year and ask yourself, is this where I want to go?

A little regular attention to our momentum can create huge benefits to our lives. Just try and see!

It’s New Years, and yeah, we’ve been here before. It’s the time for making resolutions, setting goals, breaking habits, starting that diet on January 2^nd …

Or is it?

Now, I’m not saying to kick your resolution to the curb if you feel really inspired by it. But sometimes resolutions set us up for a succeed/fail paradigm that can be rigid and unforgiving. And no fun.

So, what about considering a new paradigm? A new way of measuring progress that isn’t rigid and is highly forgiving. It’s starts with a very simple question:

How do you want to feel?

That’s right. Instead of focusing on what you need to accomplish, what if you focus on how you want to feel? Because how we feel is controllable to a large extent. When we wake up in the morning deciding to feel good, that’s usually what follows. Instead of feeling battered about by circumstances beyond our control, we can choose to self-generate good feelings. We can make our own good vibrations.

When we’re consistently more focused on how we want to feel and less on how much we’re getting done, a slow burn shift occurs. We become happiness and satisfaction seekers who can’t help but attract more happiness and satisfaction.

Just a thought.

Wishing you a very Happy New Year no matter how you choose to play it. I’m rooting for you!

Love,

Dana

It’s that time of year. And that can mean different things to different people.

Even though the holidays are a time of joy and tidings and all that stuff, it can also be a time of uncomfortable feelings. You might be feeling overwhelmed by traveling to see family or sad because you’re spending it alone. Or maybe you’re taking score of the past year unfavorably which is bringing up ‘not good enough’ feelings around family.

My advice: Relax. Be kind to yourself. Feel your feelings and maybe more importantly, observe what or who might be pushing your buttons.

If you take a breath and create a little space between you and your mom when she criticizes you (for instance), you can change the way you react. I’m not above excusing myself from a situation and going into the bathroom to tap. Tapping on meridian points, even if it’s 60 seconds while you’re sitting on the toilet, can do a world of good in making you feel better. Don’t swallow those feelings! Tap them out! Tapping can help de-charge your anger or sadness or guilt and help you more consciously deal with the situation.

For more information about tapping, I recommend going to The Tapping Solution and/or EFT Universe.

Sending you lots of good energy and support for these holidays!

With love,

Dana

P.S. Feedback wanted: I’m thinking about offering group sessions in the new year. Probably on Zoom, for 3-4 people per group. Why? Because groups can be wonderful settings for healing and change, plus it would make working with me more affordable for those on a budget. If anyone is interested in this possibility, please let me know, and I’ll start developing something. xo

Time is limited but life is not.

And isn’t that wonderful.

See, if we had forever, now might lose its urgency. We might wait until tomorrow to do what’s important today. And I’m here to say:

And please don’t quit.

As you may know, as well as being a Creative Coach, I’m a writer. I write books for kids and I love it. But before I was published, I almost quit many times. There were bills to pay and some awful jobs to go to. I felt invisible and like nobody would ever care about what I was writing. I was stuck in my creativity for a long time. And I was certainly stuck when it came to putting my writing out into the world.

It led to a journey of trying to figure this out. Why was I stuck? Why couldn’t I seem to get anywhere in my creative career when it was so important to me? It took years to unravel that junk. But it was (and is) worth it. Becoming a coach for creative people was a very unexpected outcome of this journey. And a wonderful one.

I’ve learned there are shortcuts. It doesn’t have to be so hard. The past does not have to equal the future.

So please don’t wait.

Please don’t quit.

Your future self is counting on you.

Safety trumps desire.

What do I mean by that? Quite simply, we’re wired for survival. And we learn our survival skills when we’re little kids. One of our major survival strategies is to agree with our parents (particularly the dominant one). So if our mom struggled with money, it might feel safer to struggle with money, too (because it’s familiar; “if she did it, I should do it”). If our parents battled, we might find ourselves battling with our spouse. Or if our siblings were jealous because we got more attention, maybe it’s safer to hide our light than to shine.

The bottom line is: No matter how much we desire something, we won’t let it in if it’s unsafe to have it. But knowing this can be very liberating and empowering, because we can change it!

Here’s how. If something you want is not in your life, ask yourself: What’s unsafe about having it? Will my sister be mad at me? Will my mom feel betrayed or abandoned? Will my father not feel needed? Will my friends think I’m arrogant or too ambitious? And on and on.

For instance, if you’re an actor, say your agent suddenly gets you out on amazing auditions and you book great work. What might be unsafe about that? You may say, NOTHING! I want this to happen!  But I’m going to challenge you here. Because if it’s not in your life now, there must be a part of you in conflict with this desire. And that probably means somewhere, deep inside, letting this happen would be unsafe.

So why not give it a try? Think of that thing in your life that feels stuck. Is it in your career, money, relationship, health? Make a list of anything that might be an unwanted consequence of your success in this area, no matter how small. Question everything you put on this list. I recommend using EFT/Tapping here.*

As we release old fears that have kept us small and stuck, we can start affirming new beliefs like:

–       I’m willing to believe it’s safe for me to have extra money.

–       I’m willing to believe it’s safe for me to be successful.

–       I’m willing to believe it’s safe for me to be thin.

–       I’m willing to believe it’s safe for me to be in a loving relationship.

Remember: If something you desire is absent from your life, just ask what would be the unsafe consequence of having it. Who wouldn’t like it? Because usually that unsafe fear comes back to relationships. Will we still be loved if we let ourselves have this/do this/be this?

If you have questions, please ask me! It’s worth taking some time to do this exercise. I truly believe once we feel it’s safe to have/do/be something, we can.